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Introducing a Pacifier

Pacifier. Soother. Dummy. Nubby. Binky. Paci. Wubby. Which ever word you prefer, it is used for the same purpose- to calm and quiet your little one. With so many shapes, sizes, colors, and designs some of them may look a little more like a fashion accessory. Lately there seems to be so much advice on the internet; when to offer one, why to avoid them, what are the benefits of using one. You can find anything about them from causing nipple confusion to becoming a bad habit but actually the American Academy of Pediatrics shares a meta analysis by Hauch, MD, MS et al (2005) suggesting that using a pacifier during sleep for the first year of life may decrease the risk of SIDS. But is it as easy as placing one in your baby’s mouth and watching him or her drift off to sleep? Unfortunately, not always.  Let’s learn more about Introducing a Pacifier…


First let’s talk about the sucking reflex. Your baby Is born with this reflex that is how they are able to nurse at birth. This reflex is actually elicited by stimulating the roof of your babe’s mouth. Another reflex your baby is born with is the thrusting reflex. This is thought to help decrease choking risks by allowing baby to push or thrust objects out of their mouth that maybe shouldn’t be there. This reflex is elicited by touching the tip of your baby’s tongue. This reflex can make it difficult to introduce a pacifier and may even make it look like your little one is rejecting it. 

So knowing how these reflexes may work with you or against you lets talk about the steps in introducing a pacifier to your babe: 

First things first, when you initially introduce a pacifier to your baby you will want to make sure they are calm. Ideally after a feed. Trying to introduce something new when they are upset may only end up frustrating you both. 

Tip: Cradle your baby as you would when feeding them, nice and close to your body.

Second, you do not want to place the pacifier straight into your baby’s mouth, this may make your babe close his or her mouth or you may touch the tongue which may elicit the thrusting reflex. So make sure to first gently rub the nipple of the soother on your babe’s lips. Wait for them to open their mouth like they would for a bottle or breast.

new baby Pacifier

Next, you will want to angle the pacifier so the nipple is pointing toward the roof of your baby’s mouth. Remember we want to elicit the sucking reflex. Once your baby has closed their mouth and began sucking you will want to hold onto it a bit. Babies actually do not know right away how to hold onto a pacifier. Make sure he or she has a good grasp on it before letting go. It may fall out a few times at first but this doesn’t mean your babe is rejecting it, they are still learning. 

Lastly give your baby and yourself grace. You are both navigating through these new skills together and you can always reach out to a mama coach for extra support. 

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