Watch this if you are struggling with sadness and breastfeeding
Breastfeeding is often portrayed as a time filled with joy and bonding between a mother and her child. However, for some women, it comes with unexpected, intense feelings of sadness and anxiety. This phenomenon is known as Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex, or DEMER, and it’s more common than we might think. Yet, it remains a topic not frequently discussed among healthcare professionals.
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What is DEMER?
DEMER is characterized by a wave of negative emotions such as sadness, anger, and anxiety, occurring just before milk release during breastfeeding. The culprit is believed to be a drop in dopamine levels, which affects some women more than others. Imagine the daunting feeling of knowing you might be overwhelmed by these emotions every time your baby nurses. It’s no wonder that managing these emotions can feel like an uphill battle when information is scarce.
Exploring Solutions
If you’re struggling with DEMER, know that you’re not alone and there are steps you can take. Here are some strategies that might help:
1. Seek Support
First and foremost, finding support is crucial. Whether it’s through family, friends, or online communities, connecting with others can be incredibly beneficial. It can provide a platform to share your experiences and gain insights from others who have dealt with similar challenges.
2. Check Your Iron Levels
There’s a potential link between low iron levels and the symptoms of DEMER. Many postpartum women experience low iron, which could contribute to feelings of sadness. Consult your healthcare provider to get your iron levels checked and consider appropriate supplementation if needed.
3. Discuss Medications with Healthcare Providers
Medication may help alleviate the symptoms of DEMER, but it’s essential to work with a knowledgeable healthcare provider. Some medications can impact prolactin levels, possibly affecting milk supply. Together, you and your provider can navigate these options to find a balance that works for you.
Moving Forward Together
For mothers experiencing DEMER, the journey can be isolating and overwhelming. But remember, reaching out for help and exploring treatment options are positive steps towards managing these emotions. If breastfeeding becomes too challenging, know that you have choices, and your well-being is a top priority.
It’s important to talk about DEMER more openly to support those affected and to spread awareness. By sharing experiences and information, we can break down the barriers of silence and fear that many women face. If you’re ready, I invite you to share your experiences in the comments, and let’s continue this conversation to provide support and understanding to all who need it.
Remember, you’re not alone, and we’re here to support you through this journey. Sending love and strength your way.
If you need more support
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Thank you so much for being a part of our community,
Carrie Bruno RN, IBCLC, MSCP